The method to follow to leave an abusive relationship

How to leave an abusive relationship? What’s the best way to finally get out of an abusive relationship? How to deal with an abuser? 

Ending an abusive relationship can be very difficult. It should be noted that many victims of abuse do not all understand that they have been abused or that they have at some point been manipulated by the other. Why do a large majority of victims not leave? Knowing how to talk about the violence you experience is important in coping with it, but it’s not as easy as you might think since every relationship is different.

It is even more difficult to get out of this when the abused person has been isolated from family and friends. Whether it is from emotional or physical abuse, or from financial control or serious threats … When you go through this kind of difficult situation, you might feel confused, weak, torn, uncertain and afraid.

The moment you realize that you have been abused or that you are finally ready to leave this toxic relationship, you will need to act quickly. To avoid possible violent behavior that could endanger your life, the best decision you can make right now is to take action. Above all, don’t be afraid to ask for help, although for some people it may seem impossible to do so, at least pay attention to whatever sources you have to be safe and end this abusive relationship.

An effective method to follow to leave an abusive relationship.

If you are a victim of psychological or physical violence, never forget that you are not the cause of the problem, you do not deserve what is happening to you, surround yourself with people who want to help you, you deserve a safe life and happy.

First, whether or not you are ready to leave your abuser, there are a few safety measures you can take into account to better protect yourself. First, learn to spot the abuser’s red flags, such as anger and wanting to be violent towards you. This clue may confirm that it is time to make a plan to get out of this bad relationship quickly.

Identify safe places in the house. You need to know where to go if your abuser intends to attack you. In fact, act like you are a prisoner trying to escape from prison. Prepare the ground for the escape, seek help to make this plan possible, study the tools that can help you escape, etc.

The abuser acts as a manipulator. You are in the psychological grip of this person and his one and only goal is to keep you in his daily life even if he is aware of the harm he is doing to you. To be successful in this situation, you need to be a strong person and not get caught up in their manipulative techniques.

Establish a short word or phrase to family, friends, co-workers, a stranger in a public place that you are in danger and they need to call the police. This method works especially well if your goal is to leave an abusive relationship without letting your abuser know.

To leave an abusive relationship, you must be prepared at all times to escape. Your plan should really be well organized. The best way to know if your plan will work is to test it and visualize it without your attacker.

If you want to dig deeper, a video below that I made on my YouTube channel to help you leave an abusive man when you are economically dependent.

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Agnès de Reulle

Coach, Expert in liberation from domestic and family violence & in controlling the stress of legal proceedings
Article written for Positive Words.